Written by Roxanne Brown
Sometimes this is the subtext of work conflict:
Employee to employer: I feel hurt by the way you treated me. [I work hard for you and this company.]
Employer to employee: I feel hurt by the way you treated me. [I’ve invested a lot in you, for you and this company.]
The power dynamic:
The employer has the power to retain or fire the employee.
The employee has the power to do the work in a more-or-less acceptable way.
The risk is inertia or a transactional employer-employee relationship. The risk is a negative impact to the culture, the business, customers, other people on the team.
Questions to ask: What is my part in this? What do I own? What’s in my power to do to rebuild trust between us? What would I like most from the other person? Why? How can I ask for it in a way that treats us both with respect?
It may not work out, but reframing gets to the constructive place.